Dick of the week:

"Terry"

Week 20

Terry's an enterprising nudist who sells loose loincloths and genital decorations at gay naturist gatherings. Most have a crafts fair, and Terry's booth is always popular, since he has all kinds of rings, necklaces, and other objects to slip over, around, or (if you have a piercing) through your dick. You might call him (uh oh, pun approaching!) an exterior dickorator.

Sorry. I couldn't help myself!

I'd first met him a couple of years ago, and gotten used to the idea that Terry was a "regular". Little did I realize how important gatherings were to him. When we finally got to talking about that, his answers nearly blew me away.

Let me begin with the first Dick of the Week question, which is: So just how big IS your dick, anyway?

Six and a half, in a total vacuum [laughs].

That's the longest 6 and a half I've ever seen! Is that soft or hard?

Haaad! [He uses his New England accent, meaning "Hard".] Never mind these people [who say it's longer]. 

How big around?

I don't know. [Looks amazed at the question.]

When you jerk off, can you get your hand around it?

Yeah.

When you're holding it with one hand, does your thumb touch your index finger?

Overlap.

How much overlap?

Not too much. About a thumbnail's worth.

So do you lose partners who think that you're too big for them?

No. What are they [partners]??

[It takes me a moment to realize he's joking.]

Are you saying you don't get much sex?

That would be true!

Mr. X (who's listening nearby): The world's loss.

Which do you prefer: a big dick or a small dick?

Small.

Why?

I'm intimidated by really big dicks.

What's intimidating about them?

That I don't know how to deep-throat. People have tried.

I thought all gay men knew that genetically!

[He laughs.]

Mr. X and Mr. Y: NO!! You should know better, Jim.

What's the biggest dick you've ever had sex with?

Eight inches. He was here at this gathering, from New York City, looked like a model, and he wanted to play in the woods. And we did! [He laughs and smiles.]

The smallest?

Five. Cabin steward on British Airways, Brazilian.

Mr. X: A Brazilian with a small dick!?!!

And met him in a bar in Boston, where I happen to have taken my straight lifting partner.

Which is easier to keep hard -- a big dick or a small dick?

My experience is so limited I've not seen anyone have problems. The guy with the big dick stayed hard for a couple of hours.

What's your favorite way of USING your dick?

I guess... displaying it in public.

Is there a favorite way to display it?

Hard.

How would it get hard?

The thrill factor.

Tell me more.

If I'm in a situation where there might be something unexpected or some danger element, or there's someone I'm particularly turned on by, then I guess that's a good definition of being an exhibitionist.

I take it that from time to time guys come on to you just because you have a big dick.

Yes.

How does that make you feel?

I'm flattered.

How often do you get the impression that someone is interested in you ONLY because you have a big dick?

None. They seem more interested in other things, although a big dick IS an attractant.

For example, are they interested in your piercing?

No, that's just a curiosity thing, I don't think that's a real turn-on for other people. It may be more the pecs, the shoulders, the muscular development.

How old were you when you first realized that your dick was bigger than most other guys'?

1994, so I'd have been 46.

That sounds kind of late in life... were you just coming out then?

Yes. After I left my first gay naked gathering, I came out.

So you first came to the Gathering as a straight guy?

As an "in the closet" gay guy -- in the closet to me.

So if you weren't out to yourself, how did you manage to come to a gay naturist event? Or even find out about it?

I found out from an advertisement in a naturist magazine, and signed up because I thought they'd have info about nude beaches and everything. I was starting to experiment with being gay without being "out."

Had you done anything exhibitionistic before then?

Yes. I used to do yard work wearing a loincloth.

Anything else?

I went to nude beaches on Cape Cod a few times before that.

So tell me about the loincloth.

It was small, revealing, rabbit skin -- you know the ones I sell up at the crafts fair. And I could be really naked without being completely naked. And all the neighbors were shocked.

What kind of neighborhood do you live in?

On a dead-end street in a residential neighborhood in a small town.

Families with kids nearby?

Yeah.

Have any of the kids seen you in your loincloth?

Yup.

What happened?

Nothing. Kids are cool. Adults are not. Only one family complained.

To whom?

Me.

What did you say?

I said I'd be careful around them, so I was. If they were around, I didn't flaunt it.

I take it people can see underneath your loincloth easily?

Probably not.

Is there a cloth under the rabbit skin which covers your dick?

No. It's just a flap of rabbit skin, and usually a fox or coyote tail in back. [See illustration. The model here has a raging hardon; see box below.]

So a good breeze comes along...

[He chuckles.]

No one complained to the police?

No. [Then he remembers.] Oh, just once, when I was washing my car naked. I didn't think anyone was around, but someone was.

What happened?

I was clothed when the police came, and they said, well, be careful. So they were cool.

Did you ever get hard running around like that?

Yes. I discovered when I was 12 that I liked being naked and would get hard as soon as I was naked, indoors or out.

So what did you do about it?

Every opportunity I had I would try to be naked. Without anyone seeing me.

Did it work? Did you get caught?

No. I was too careful.

So what precautions did you take?

I was usually naked outside at night, or naked inside my house when everyone was away, or I'd go into the woods. But a couple of times I walked around my town naked in the wee hours of the morning.

What ages were you then?

I was in my mid-thirties.

So you've been a nudist ever since puberty.

Yup.

How old were you when your fist discovered another nudist?

46. Through GNI.

Wow! That's a long time to wait. Were you married or something?

No. I dated in high school, but that wore off pretty quickly.

I still think it's interesting that you came to a gay event before you were really admitting to yourself that you were gay.

I still don't know why I did it. I was just starting to experiment with gay things, but I wasn't comfortable with myself being gay, so this was an experiment.

So what did it feel like when you got out of your car here at camp?

I was apprehensive.

Were you hard?

No.

What happened next?

I registered and I was wearing some unusual cock jewelry -- a choker necklace as a cockring. A whole bunch of people remarked on how hot they thought that looked, and I immediately started feeling more at ease.

And you got even more at ease.... at what point?

Over the next day or two I met many wonderful people who were extremely kind to me and loving and talked to me a lot. Plus I started to see how wonderful I found gay culture here to be. How creative and talented, and all of a sudden everything started feeling very wonderful and RIGHT to me. I had never been kissed by a guy before, never been hugged, and I got LOADS of those, and it just felt really good. After a couple of nights I had my first ever sex. At the disco. In 1994 they had a back room at the disco -- just that one year. [It was not continued after that because most people thought it made the disco feel like a sex club.] Many, many wonderful things happened to make me aware how wonderful I found gay people to be.

Who was the lucky guy?

He was blond haired, very nice looking, married with children, and apparently his wife didn't know he was here. I thought he was really hot. And we sort of were doing dirty dancing at the disco [chuckles] that was an incredible turn-on.

How old was he?

40.

Of course, you have a piercing -- a Prince Albert (PA), right? When did you get it?

The year before my first time here.

How come?

I found it extremely erotically appealing.

What's sexy about it?

I don't know, but I masturbated thinking about getting my penis pierced.

You still do or you did at the time?

Did.

Do you have piercing fantasies now?

No.

Do you like your PA? Glad you had it done?

Yes.

So what's appealing about the piercing -- the act of piercing itself, the pain, the way it looks afterwards, or what?

There was no pain. The appeal was how it looked afterwards.

How do you drive a rod through your dick and not have any pain?

PAs are the least painful of all body piercings, a fact largely unknown to most people.

Wow! I had no idea. [Note: I'm still skeptical -- but that's what he said.] Did you know that before you got yours?

No. But I had had nipple piercings and they were not all that painful, either, so I was not expecting the worst. But it took 6 months for me to get the courage to have it done. [He smiles and laughs.]

Did you have similar erotic fantasies about piercing your nipples?

Yes.

Do you still?

No. Apparently I'm all done with piercing.

So when you masturbated thinking of the PA, what did the imagery in your head look like?

Having a piece of jewelry coming out of my penis.

So it was the way it looked and worked, not the process of getting it.

Right.

Anything else you'd like to modify about your dick?

Yeah. I never liked the erection angle, which is under 90 degrees, and I particularly admire penises that stand up erect.

Anything else?

No, that's about it. Of course I'd like it three inches longer, but... [he laughs]!

What's the most annoying way someone comes on to you -- like in a bar or at a party?

Not taking no for an answer. Or being drunk.

If someone saw you in a bar, and figured out you had a big dick, what would be the best line for him to use to get you interested in him?

You have extremely nice eyes. [Smiles.]

Mr. Y: I'll bear that in mind!

Who said that?

Robert.

Mr. X: We're his fan club.

[X and Y have been listening in on the interview -- and have also been giving Terry some light and playful erotic attention. Then X runs his shaved head across Terry's lower back, and Terry says, in mock horror:] He's brillo-padding me!

What would be the worst line?

I guess I'll think about that a minute. If I told you, people would think the wrong thing. [He thinks, then decides to go ahead and answer.] "Hey, let's go home and have sex."

Mr. X: He's a romantic!

I like to ease into things.

Mr. X: Hey, big boy, when are you going to ease into me?

[He laughs.]

Are you cut or uncut?

Uncut.

Which do you prefer in other men? Why?

I'm ambivalent.

You like them both?

Yes.

What makes a dick pretty, or good-looking?

To me it's proportion and lack of extreme veininess. I've never liked that.

Do you think you have a pretty dick?

Yes.

Is your father cut or uncut?

He was uncut.

Did he have a big dick?

I really don't know. I was too young when he died [13].

What did he die from?

Asbestos-related lung cancer.

So he was sick for some time before he died?

Um hum.

Now all the therapists reading will want to know this: did you start running around naked before or after your father died?

Before.

Before he got sick?

Yes.

Did you have the slightest idea there was something wrong with him?

No.

When did you first dance naked?

Here, at my first Gathering.

What does your dick do when you dance naked?

I would get erect. I don't anymore.

Did you get hard every time that first year?

Yes.

Second year?

Yes.

Third year?

Then it started to diminish.

When you're dancing naked with a hardon, do you think about how moving your body will move your dick?

Yes.

What do you want your dick to be doing when you're dancing?

I do fairly high energy dancing, so it's going to bob all around, without doing anything simply because I have a hard on.

So you just let the dick bounce as it may.

Yeah.

What do you like the most about your dick?

[He takes a moment.] What do I like most? I guess the overall size.

What do you like the most about having a dick?

The ability to masturbate.

Or a big dick?

Compliments.

What do you like the least about your dick?

I'd say angle of erection.

What do you like the least about having a dick?

Mr. Z: [Joking] You have to clean it twice a day!

There's nothing I don't like about having a dick.

Having a big dick?

Nothing.

Has your dick ever gotten you in trouble?

No -- other than the nude car wash and the neighbors.

Anything you want to say about your dick or dicks in general?

I really like MY dick, and I really like dicks in general.

And that's why you're here, showing yours off?

That's one of the reasons I'm here. But I don't think I'm really here to show my dick off. That's a byproduct of being here.

The main reason being the fellowship, good feeling, and so on?

Yes.

Thank you very much!

That's it? You're welcome!

[At this point I take a few photos for the web page. A moment later it gets a bit chilly, and Terry puts on a sweatshirt. Then he remarks:]

You know, when I was in my car that first Sunday, getting ready to drive home, I started crying. It was because I thought something very profound had happened in my life. And it was because I realized -- oh God, I might start crying right now, here! -- I realized it was OK to be gay. I realized my entire life had changed in my one episode here.

Wow! What a wonderful story!

Yeah, I really think it is. And then within a week I had told my brother that I'm gay, and it was the first time those words -- "I'm gay" -- had passed by my lips. That began a one and a half year process of coming out to everybody -- work, family, friends. I'm very openly gay now.

Great! Thank you very much!

Let me see Terry's photos.

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