Dick of the week:

"Stan O'Toole"

Week 17

I met Stan at the 1998 IMEN gathering -- but I didn't manage to interview him until the next year. He quickly became a well-known figure at the Gathering by entering several of the contests and participating in many events. He always had a smile on his face and seemed quite happy when I approached him with my camera. Since then, I have run into him at just about every Gathering I've attended -- including the CMEN Gathering in October, 1999, near Malibu.

So let me begin with the standard Dick of the Week question: just how big IS your dick, anyway?

Well, seven and a half inches [he grins]. It's true.

How big around?

My fist. [He holds his fingers slightly overlapping, at a 90 degree angle where they meet. He meant the inside diameter of the circle -- not the outside diameter of his fist.]

So when you jerk off, can you get your hand around it just barely?

Oh, completely.

When you're holding it with one hand, does your thumb touch your index finger?

Yes. They touch.

So do you lose partners who think that you're too big for them?

Oh, yeah, I've had people say "no thank you."

Which do you prefer: a big dick or a small dick?

Just that they have one.

Why no preference?

A dick's important, to be sure, but I don't want to put that much emphasis on it. If they care about me, in their approach to me, that's good as long as they have a dick. I prefer uncut.

Why uncut?

Because I really think I was robbed of my own, and I feel very strongly that that should be an individual choice and no one else's. The [foreskin] restoration I've done for myself has added tremendous dimensions of pleasure for me, in my own experience. Uncut is natural, and maybe that's a psychological thing -- it's OK for me to play with it because it's natural -- but mostly it's that I can do a lot more stuff with one of those! And enjoy doing it, too -- that's important.

What's the biggest dick you've ever had sex with?

14 inches, I think. Nice boy, 14 inches, name was Steven, he had one testicle, he was very self-conscious about that, and I think he was quite impressed by my ability to screw him and suck him to completion -- he'd never experienced that. It was just short of nirvana.

You mean screw him and suck him at the same time?

Yes, simultaneously.

How do you do that?

Just bend appropriately, and everything else just sort of falls into place. It helps when they're a little longer than normal. It's less strain, but it can be done. I'm very flexible, anyway. Yoga routines... I know the thought going through people's minds is, "I bet he can eat himself." And sadly, yes, I could -- but it's a fond memory, but not currently something that I can do. Without a little stretching and exercising and getting back into condition.

Well, I've never tried to fuck and suck simultaneously, but I imagine I MIGHT be able to do so if my partner were 14 inches. But just barely!

They don't have to be 14, they just have to be big. Depending on the position, it doesn't have to be dead on, they can be side to side. People bend in different places.

The smallest?

Believe it or not probably maybe a 3 or a 4-inch.

Tell me about that.

Nothing out of the ordinary. I always follow through and have as much fun with a little as with a large. You can get voracious with a little one, too.

Which is easier to keep hard -- a big dick or a small dick?

Probably a small one.

How come?

There's less weight there. It definitely affects the angle of projection -- if it's really heavy it's going to take some pretty heavy action to raise it. The short ones stick up more.

What's your favorite way of USING your dick?

Because the world is the way it is, by myself. Self-pleasuring. Recreation.

I take it that from time to time guys come on to you just because you have a big dick.

Yeah.

How does that make you feel?

Well, I try to accept it as being a genuine type of flattery, but just because I say that doesn't necessarily mean that they have control over me.

How often do you get the impression that someone is interested in you ONLY because you have a big dick?

I'd say just part of the time.

How old were you when you first realized that your dick was bigger than most other guys'?

When I started seeing more and more of them hard. [He laughs.]

And when was that?

I've seen films, sometimes locker room antics -- relatives, siblings.

What's the most annoying way someone comes on to you -- like in a bar or at a party?

Trying to stick a finger in my ass, that'd do it.

If someone saw you in a bar, and figured out you had a big dick, what would be the best line for him to use to get you interested in him?

"I'm uncut and looking for a husband" [he laughs]!

What would be the worst line?

"I have five children from a previous marriage" [he laughs] -- oh, God!

Did that ever happen?

No, but I would certainly steer clear. I've raised a child and one is enough.

Why do you prefer uncut dicks?

Because there's so much more there to play with, and maybe it's a little bit of foreskin envy, and it is some of the softest skin on the body. It has a multitude of possible applications.

What makes a dick pretty, or good-looking?

I would definitely say, in natural sunlight, in its natural relaxed state, in the way God intended it to look.

Do you think you have a pretty dick?

Hmmmm... I think it's OK.

But you're improving it [by restoring its foreskin].

Yeah, but I also approve of that which I can't change.

Is your father cut or uncut?

He is uncut.

Does your father have a big dick?

Yes he does.

How big?

I have never seen it erect, however, he has seen mine erect. He approves.

Is he gay too?

No.

So how do you know he approves?

Because I sunbathe nude, and he saw me sunbathing nude, asleep, on a chaise lounge, with an erection. He saw me there, then he asked my sister in law to come on back (near where he was sleeping) and to "take a look at the hibiscus" -- in front of which I was laying asleep with an erection! [He laughs.] That's my dad's sense of humor.

Well of course, the hibiscus flower is the sexual part of the plant.

[Improving on the joke] It has a big pistil!

Note to non-English speakers: A "pistil" is a part of a flower. A "pistol" is a gun.
PS: I looked up "pistil" in the dictionary and discovered that it's the female part of the flower. Oh well....

Have you ever danced naked?

Yes, here at the Gathering. And last year I had a really interesting thing happen at GNI. I was really enjoying the electricity of the crowd, the lights, and I just really felt like I belonged -- and I threw a boner as a natural reaction to it all. That's the first time that I had ever experienced it for those reasons.

You know, I have too. It's wonderful.

It's a feeling of connection that is quite a unique sensation. You want to go with it and let it take you for awhile. Until all these naughty little gorillas thought they could swing from it for a time and that kind of broke my concentration!

What does your dick do when you dance naked?

It swings and flops. I suspect it could make some noise!

What do you mean?

I was just visualizing maracas [he laughs].

You've got quite a sense of humor yourself.

Well, I think that a lot of topics are easier to handle if you can laugh at them. And besides, laughing is a pretty cool thing to do.

When you're dancing naked, do you think about how moving your body will move your dick? Do you do anything on purpose because of the way it's going to cause your dick to swing?

No, I don't think I've ever really given that any thought. But there's no doubt that there ARE certain movements that cause it to become quite animated.

What do you like the most about your dick?

Right now, the screamer amounts of satisfying joy it brings me.

What do you like the most about having a dick -- or a big dick?

Just having... being able to wear boys' underwear! [He laughs.] Because it beats the alternative -- that butt floss shit that women wear.

What do you like the least about your dick?

That it's not in its natural state, the way it was born. Yeah, that really hurts.

What do you like the least about having a dick?

I don't think there is [any disadvantage], because if I have only one life to live, I want to live it as a man, under the star sign I was actually born under, being gay, and that's the only way I really want to live it again.

Well, maybe a little bit bigger dick. Never hurts a thing, you know! Shoot for the moon when you start wishing!

Has your dick ever gotten you in trouble?

Yeah, it's self-imposed trouble I put myself in. I allowed it to overrule my better judgment by compromising a sexual situation to satisfy someone else when I knew it was the wrong thing to do. Exhibiting kindness I really wasn't behind.

Like a mercy fuck?

[He laughs.] Well not necessarily that much, but letting someone get a lot more than they should have. You've gotta do what makes you happy, and if it's not,, then you're not living true to yourself. It's false. So face it, get over it, and start living a little. Fantasies being the exception of course.

Anything else you want to say about your dick?

He's my friend, and he's grateful for every beating I give him. The other night I thought I had killed him, I had beat the shit out of him, because after his beating he went limp on me.

[It takes me a moment to realize that he's joking.]

Just a silly little joke. I even told my doctor that to try to get him to smile! It didn't work.

Thank you very much!

You're welcome!

Let me see Stan's photos.

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