Dick of the week:

"Vic"

Week 14

I met Vic at a gay nudist gathering in early 1999. He seemed eager to explore, a bit young and wet behind the ears. He noticed me interviewing another fellow and got very interested; I later found out that he had been approached by a porno producer (a few weeks ago) and was thinking of appearing in a film. As I got to know him, I discovered that he's like a lot of young gay men -- enthusiastic but a bit foggy about what he likes. This is only normal -- he's discovering these things. His brain thinks he likes one thing -- or thinks he should like that thing -- and his body may or may not react in the way his brain would predict. Without saying so openly, I found myself doubting some of what he told me. But Vic wasn't lying -- he just didn't really know the answers yet. I was there once, and so were you; it takes awhile for people to learn about themselves.

In the next couple of months, Vic and I kept in touch by e-mail and a phone call or two, and I got the impression that he's doing well on his erotic journey through life: he's trying new things, figuring out how he ticks, making a place for himself in the gay world.

Let me begin with the first Dick of the Week question, which is: So just how big IS your dick, anyway? [He's nude, of course -- so he shows me by pulling away from the table.]

About 8 inches. [Editor's note: To be perfectly frank, it didn't look 8 inches to me, but I didn't see it completely hard.]

And how big around?

Girth? About 1 inch in diameter [which would be a bit over 3 inches around].

So when you jerk off, your fingers touch? Or do they overlap?

They meet.

Tell me a little bit about your background.

My parents are Puerto Rican. I was born in New York City. I'm 35 years old. [He looks 25, as you can see.] I have a bachelor's degree in mathematics, I studied in Rome for awhile, where I earned a bachelor's degree in theology. I've been back in the US about 3 years now. Since then I've been going to work as an assistant manager at a jewelry store, where I am now.

Now when you were "for sale" [at the gathering's fundraising auction], you were wearing a leather collar and a leather armband, and a leather cockring thing. Why?

Actually not a cockring but a ball-stretcher. I want my balls to hang lower. I like that look.

The leather look?

No, my balls lower. But I inquired as to how I could achieve that look and I was led to Leather Man in Manhattan, and over time I graduated from a one-inch thickness to one and a half. I have the two inch and I'll graduate to that soon. I like that look, a couple of guys here have it.

Also when you masturbate, it takes longer to come. I tend to come too quickly. This delays it, plus it controls my ejaculation. I can feel the semen coming up the urethra, and it's easier to control. If I release it, it's more likely to delay ejaculation. It's not so significant now, but I've noticed a difference, so it prolongs the pleasure. Which is why basically I became a bottom, because when I was a top I came too quickly; things were over before I started. But now it's like a change in my sexual outlook. This way I can be more versatile. My doctor recommended that I get a delay cream, but I didn't want to bother with a cream.

So how come the armband and the collar?

It's leather night [tonight], and I hooked up with a guy here who's into leather, and we hit it off really well, and I already had the cockring, so... Plus another thing is since I've become a bottom, I like being a submissive type. I like being held and spanked and pushed, and that kind of thing, subjected to submissive type things. One guy pulled on my collar and that felt good, so the association I felt with leather and submissiveness is very cogent.

I think you told me earlier that you're experimenting with leather.

Yes. This is basically my first time, apart from the ball stretcher. The avenue is being opened for me for the submissive aspect of sexual expression, which I never expressed before. But the guy I hooked up with here, he's very much like that.

Like what?

A submissive type.

So he's teaching you how to be submissive. He's submissive himself.

Yes, which is why sex between us is a little awkward at the moment because he has to assert himself with me. But it's OK. When it came my turn to assert myself, people interrupted us so hopefully it'll be picked up next time. We did a little in the pool, I tried to fuck him in the pool today -- I almost did! He was surprised. I swam up under and behind him and grabbed him. I would have succeeded if I'd tried a little harder.

Tell the readers why the armband is on your RIGHT arm.

According to Frank, my new friend, you put it on your right arm for a bottom, which I am.

It seems from looking at you that your dick is cut.

It is.

Which do you prefer -- cut or uncut?

Uncut.

Why?

In playing with it, you pull back the foreskin, I like the feel of it, there's more there. Plus I feel that's how nature intended it to be.

Do you prefer long or short?

Either is OK. When a man's dick is hard, it's pretty long in most cases. The thicker, the longer, the better [which is how I prefer them], but... I'm accommodating. And versatile and open to any size.

Why do you like them big and thick?

Because it feels good when they penetrate me.

What do you like about penetration?

It's a communion between men. It's like a way of being one with someone I like. I'm even getting hard [right now] thinking about it. I always like... When I see two guys doing it, it's hot, like they merge, and become one.

You'll notice the effect -- even speaking about it brought out in me [he pulls away from the table again to let me see and photograph it, harder than it was before] -- it conjures up powerful images in my mind. If I ever want to get an erection , I bring images of guys penetrating into my mind and inevitably I get erect. It works almost every time. Like cocksucking doesn't do that. Cocksucking is nice to see, but somehow it's not as evocative or powerful as getting fucked. So when it happens to me, it's transporting. The first time of course it was painful [he smiles] -- very very very very painful. It was my roommate -- who wasn't gentle, he just wasn't gentle. He should have known to be more gentle. But after that it was OK.

So your first time getting fucked was by a roommate?

Yeah.

Was he your boyfriend?

No. He had a girlfriend, as a matter of fact -- I guess he was bi. He liked to have his girlfriend shove a dildo in his ass. He had a huge collection of dildos -- which he liked either me to use or his girlfriend. Sometimes she would strap one on herself and fuck him, believe it or not! Coming back [after leaving] the seminary I was not the most adventurous type, but he opened me up in more ways than one [he smiles]. Because now I'm beginning to to experiment with dildos.

Because you like getting fucked so much?

Yeah, because I don't on a regular basis. I'm trying... I don't actually own one yet. It's in the works.

What makes a good dildo?

I don't know yet. I'll have to find out, and go to the leather store where they have a basement and have a roomful -- I'll just go down there and ask. I've definitely used ones by Frank, but his are all too large. They get large, those things! He used to get them mail order, from a catalog called Adam and Eve. He's also starting to get me into punishment -- receiving punishment, being tied up, being slapped, being hit -- he liked doing that to me, and initially I didn't like it, I balked, but now I'm seeing it in a new light.

What is turning out to appeal to you about that?

See, I haven't done it enough, I'm opening up this avenue that my roommate started, and I'm exploring it also with Frank. What you do is you go into the bar, and people read you and know [figure out] what kind of person you are, and probably next weekend I'm going to try it and see how it goes.

What do you like the most about having a dick?

It's an evocative... I don't know. I like touching it smelling it, holding it, nothing in particular.

What do you like least about having a dick?

[Long pause] I don't know.

What do you like most about YOUR dick?

I like the way that when it's erect it's so engorged and it lasts. I know people my age who don't have the endurance I have.

What do you like least about your dick?

I wish it could be bigger.

How big would you like it to be?

Just a little longer, a little thicker. Especially a little thicker.

What makes a dick beautiful?

The head is in proportion to the shaft and the balls hang low.

Do people ever come on to you just because you have a big dick?

Usually I'm clothed, so they don't see it. But when I'm not clothed, they do see it.

If someone were to come up to you in a bar, what would be the best thing for them to say to you or to do which would make you want to have sex with them?

Well, I'm a bottom so... Well, the big dick would be an introduction, although I don't think I have a big dick, certainly not the biggest, it's a way of introducing me to them and we could use it to play out my submissiveness in sexual play, and I would bend over.

What's the biggest dick you've ever had sex with?

With an Irish kid, and I didn't think I could accommodate him, and it took a little work, but what was good about it was I felt it all the time while he was plowing me, so I had him take it out and then reinsert it just so I would remember the feel of it.

What's the smallest dick you've ever had sex with?

Also an Irish kid. I hardly felt it; it was about 5 inches, erect. He was shaved, too, so that was why I liked him.

Why did you like that?

I shave my pubic hairs. I've gotten into the clean, shaved look.

Which is easier to keep hard, a small dick or a big dick?

I don't know. I would imagine it's about the same. Anatomically...

Anything else you want to say about your dick or dicks in general?

Basically that it's a fascinating organ, it's an evocative organ, a beautiful thing. It's a wonder. Although I have more a foot fetish than a fetish with penises, the penis is right up there. These are the two parts of a man I find quizzical, paradoxical, beautiful.

Thank you very much!

OK!