Dick of the week: Yes, it's true: everybody's got a dick. And
whether he'll admit it or not, every guy likes to talk about his
dick. Big, small, or average; in great shape or out of order;
tan, brown, reddish, pink, or black; hard or soft; in use or
ignored... Everybody's Got
One! ...and
everybody's talking about it. This week's interview is with a fellow
we met the night before the Toronto gay pride march in June, 1998.
After you read it, don't forget to check out his photos!
Then check back in a week or so to meet a new face, a new interview,
and a new dick!
Our dick of the week this week has a face made for photography!
Why
do you like the name Bagherra?
It comes from The Jungle Book.
I haven't read that. What does Bagherra do in it?
Bagherra in the Jungle Book is leader of most ... the only thing higher than him is the tiger, and he's only higher because he's ferocious. But as far as a motherly figure, leader of the pack, it's Bagherra. It also has to do with Boy Scouts; they use it as one of the different levels of where you are in that group.
Canadian Boy Scouts?
No, Boy Scouts worldwide, as far as I know. They use Bagherra (the panther) -- as well as Baloo (the bear). It's their ranking system -- [just like the military uses] corporals and privates and captains -- they use the Jungle Book.
When did the Jungle Book come out?
Hoo....! Disney introduced him quite awhile ago; there's been some remakes.
So
for you, Bagherra symbolizes what?
My independence from my family, and that I am the owner and guide of MY life.
So you were a Boy Scout?
I was, for awhile, yeah.
Are the Canadian Boy Scouts as homophobic as the American ones?
I would say yes, definitely.
How so?
An example would be my sister deleting a portion of videotape I took -- which had no meaning whatsoever but was of younger boys -- and in her mind I didn't need to have it. Her son -- my nephew -- was involved in the troop.
That's pretty sad.
What was really sad was trying to watch the video and finding it not there, but [he shrugs]...
OK, let's get on with the subject of the interview -- which is your dick. The first question most people want to know is: Just how big is it, anyway?
7 inches in length, 6 and a half girth. Not that I've ever measured it! Don't write that down! [He giggles and smiles.]
So when you jerk off, can you get your hand around it?
Yes. Both actually!
You mean this way (I illustrate, with one hand at the imaginary base, the other farther along), right? But I meant to ask, when you're holding it with one hand, does your thumb touch your index finger?
Yes.
How much overlap?
Good question! Like so [holds up his hand, with thumb and finger overlapping by about one thumbnail].
So that's a pretty big dick.
It's been my downfall many times!
Tell me about that.
Ooooh. [He sighs.] It's usually very scary to the other partner, whoever it may be.
Because?
Because they see the size, and it's like "Whoa, no way"!
Now I'm playing dumb here, but...
No way is that going THERE!
And THERE is...?
[Smiles from from embarrassment....] Anal entry. I'm playing dumb because I've never had an interview like this before. [He pauses a moment.] OK, we'll try to be as blatant as possible from now on.
So do you lose partners who think that you're too big for them?
I wouldn't really say lose, I just don't acquire... nothing comes of it. It turns into the inevitable one-night stand.
So typically they find out once they get you naked and in bed.
Definitely.
But obviously I just saw you at a naked dance party, and everybody knows you've got a big dick.
[He nods.] And I still managed to find someone who I gave my card to! We'll have to see how that goes.
In terms of the guys you have sex with, are you attracted to guys with big dicks or small dicks?
Doesn't enter into it.
Why not?
I prefer Asians; it doesn't matter to me the size of their dick.
I take it that from time to time guys come on to you just because you have a big dick.
Yes.
How does that make you feel?
[He thinks a long time, seriously, then laughs.] It makes me feel flattered, but not always... it depends upon who THEY are.
Tell me more.
I'm flattered that they enjoy what they see. But as far as a relationship it depends upon what I'm looking at as well. In other words [cheerfully], I'm not a slut!
So other than the guy being Asian, what attracts you to someone?
Someone who will talk to me. In my experience so many people [Asians] have been threatened by the Caucasian race that they won't speak to me because I am Caucasian. So if they'll speak to me, right off the bat I've got a foot in the door, excuse the pun, and we'll see what happens.
What's your favorite way of USING your dick?
[He pauses to think with his tongue in the corner of his mouth.] Hmmmm... Pleasing others.
For example?
I enjoy making others happy, in whatever... [he leans back and thinks, then smiles] ... makes them happy. There's not anything that I would do that I would specifically WANT to do, I would just do whatever happens.
I
see you have some other tattoos besides Bagherra.
This one is the newest one. [Points to his upper left arm.] It's identical to one on my ex-lover from Thailand. It's the same tattoo, same place, same whole nine yards. Basically the arm has been dedicated to friends.
So
on the same arm, there's the rose. Which friend is that?
Previous lover from Thailand. No others, not as yet.
So let me ask you a provocative question -- what are going to do when you run out of space on your arm?
[He smiles.] When I run out of space on my arm, there's still lots of space other places.
Now the stereotype that us white guys often have about Asians is that they have small dicks -- as a general rule, with exceptions. What do you think?
As a rule I would say it is a Caucasian misconception -- as is the idea that all blacks have big dicks.
So what else about Asians attracts you?
Buddhism is very high on my list.
How come?
Being an atheist since birth, most of what Buddha says is what Jesus Christ has said, only I don't have to believe in a single [divine] being, because Buddha being human is not almighty to me.
Just very wise.
Very wise, but just me -- me being human.
So most of the Asians you meet here in Toronto are Buddhist?
Yeah. Most of whom are from Vietnam.
I have a Caucasian friend who now lives in San Francisco who also likes Asians, and who strongly prefers Vietnamese. Do you have a similar preference?
From experience, Thailand is my preference, as I've never been to Vietnam.
But you have been to Thailand?
Yes, 5 years in a row.
How long each time?
Usually a month.
Because your job is...
Unemployed. The worst job in the world is looking for work.
Which city is your fave?
Patong Beach. (Why?) Familiarity, basically.
I'm an AIDS researcher myself, and among us Thailand has a reputation, correctly or incorrectly, and one of the centers of AIDS infection in Asia. So I assume that there's a lot commercial sex going on there. Is that true at Patong Beach?
Yes, I' would say a fair amount.
I've also heard that the Thai people in general have very different sexual standards -- not higher or lower, but different -- than westerners. To westerners, Thais come across as sexually very friendly. What's your opinion?
Definitely agree. Yes. They don't have the hang-ups.
What's an example of a hang-up they don't have?
Eye contact in the street. In Toronto, eye contact is made and avoided at all cost. And there in Thailand it's never an issue.
So you catch someone's eye and that usually leads to a conversation?
Yes, definitely.
Do you speak the language?
I'm actually trying to learn it.
How difficult has it been so far?
Extremely.
But it's probably worth it, right?
Yes, definitely.
I take it that most Thais are uncircumcised?
As per religion, yes.
So Buddhism says, don't circumcise?
Yes.
Is there a reason why not?
Not that I know of, but then I'm not that deep into it.
Do you personally prefer cut or uncut?
Uncut.
Why?
Because I was until I was 16 years old. I wish I had had more information before I had the operation.
Info such as what?
Alternatives to circumcision. (Such as?) A clip at the fulcrum.
So you had phimosis? Your foreskin wouldn't retract without pain?
Yes.
You had it all your life?
No, at about the age of maybe 8, I -- being a nudist by myself now -- I was dared by my sister to expose myself, and I think the sun had an adverse effect.
[Editor's note: This sun-exposure theory strikes me as very unlikely, but I'm not a physician so I'm not really sure.]
You were outdoors? This was the same sister who erased part of your videotape?
Yes. [He smiles.] She's been a big part of my life. [It's not clear how sarcastic or rueful he's being with this remark.]
How many brothers?
One.
Is he cut or uncut?
Cut, and also adopted.
Are you adopted?
No.
Is your father cut or uncut?
Un.
Does your father have a big dick?
Yes. (He nods.)
How big?
(He laughs.) Big! He's larger than I am -- body wise as well as genitalia.
So a lot of guys would probably like to know how different it feels to jerk off with and without a foreskin. What's the difference?
First thing I would like to say to anyone thinking about being circumcised: Don't do it. Seek alternatives. Any short-time pleasure gained by removal of skin is outweighed by long-term [loss of] pleasure.
When you had it done, did you know you were gay?
Yes.
At that time, were you more sexually attracted to cut or uncut dicks?
Uncut.
Had you had sex with anyone else by that time?
My first relationship was when I was ten, and I had had at least half a dozen by the time of the operation (age 16).
And were they with older guys or younger guys?
Same age.
Asian? Caucasian?
Caucasian.
How old were you when you noticed a specific attraction to Asians?
Probably about 19.
What was the context?
Probably just television -- nothing specific.
So was it on TV? [Jokingly] A National Geographic special on Southeast Asia?
Definitely, yes! A movie of the same era would be "Surf Ninjas." God if I could meet HIM through this interview!
Him being...?
Ernie Reyes, Jr., the star of "Surf Ninjas." And that would be him, right there! [He points to the video box, with Ernie half naked on it, his name listed as top billing. The box reads: "Surf's Up! Time to save the world!"]
Is that a comedy?
Yes. I would say with Leslie Nielsen in it, it's definitely a comedy. Leslie got last billing on it, actually.
So long have you been a nudist?
20 years. Since age 10.
How did you discover that you liked nudity at age 10?
My sister's boyfriend introduced us to a local park called Sun Valley Gardens, in Ontario.
Is that a nudist park?
Yes, now defunct.
So how old was your sister?
15.
And the boyfriend?
16.
The whole family went?
She spoke with my family, and my brother and I went, and my parents followed maybe a week later or so.
So your parents were liberal at least in that respect.
Yes, it's a liberal family.
So what was it like for you as a ten-year-old the first time you went?
Heaven on earth.
Really! Why?
The garden of Eden. Not being religious, but clothes had always been cumbersome, and getting back to nature was more natural than putting clothes on.
So it was the feeling of being nude, and not the sights, that turned you on?
Absolutely, yes.
So how enthusiastically did your family take to nudism?
Very enthusiastically. They had fore-thought of it, but had no cause to actually do it.
After that first time, how often did your family go?
Regularly. Home from work was home to the [nudist] park. We had a mobile home on the park grounds. We moved in there almost immediately.
Wow! Quick sales job! So you basically lived a nude lifestyle from age 10 on. What about your sister's boyfriend?
He came from a nudist family.
I see -- so it wasn't exactly a shock to your parents that their daughter's boyfriend would ask her to get naked. So more than most boys, you had many opportunities to see men's dicks, right?
Definitely.
And you're not bored with them yet?
Definitely not! [He smiles.]
Me neither!
If someone Asian saw you in a bar, and knew you had a big dick, or saw you at a nudist event, what would be the best line for him to use to get you interested in him?
Politely introducing himself.
Would it help or hurt to refer to the size of your dick?
Knowing he knows that, referral to said thing would be a bonus, yes.
Which is easier to keep hard: a big dick or a small dick?
[Smiles] From what side of the coin? I would say that a smaller one would be easier to keep hard.
Anything else you want to say on the topic of your dick or anybody else's dick?
I could probably think of a lot to say, but I'd prefer it to be between us (my partner and me).
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